Thursday, October 17, 2013

Time Marches On

Did we really celebrate Thanksgiving?  I'm not quite sure, it was all a blur.  I spent a great deal of time contacting people and making my own personal arrangements, I think my inlaws came for dinner.  I know my parents did as they were gracious enough to watch the kids while we headed down to the south shore of Nova Scotia.

I packed a small gift for Junior.  For my birthday I'd asked my husband if Cathey was up to it, for one last stitch in, it would require about 6 hours of driving each way and it probably wouldn't be long but if she was up for it, it would be worth it.  The next week when I called to see how she was doing, I knew in my heart that this would be one of our last conversations, so I started gathering items for a stitching night in a box...flat Katie, Faith Ann and Shannon, Cadbury Screme Eggs (which slowed the process down considerably) and was about to send this off with Junior's little present when things went down hill fast :/  I tried to send a PFO to cancer, and it beat me.  I made him this little hat and I found the perfect (IMO) book for him, The Search for the Pink Pumpkin:



We travelled to Halifax for the first leg of the trip.  While I have faith, sometimes I struggle with the logics.  There were just so many things that reminded me of Cathey on the trip down that something bigger was letting me know things were alright.  The moment we turned on the radio Nickelback's photograph was on, one of the songs from the Pumpkin's Retreat Mix CD that I know is somewhere in the craft room, it has a little more meaning now.  Of course it's that time of year where everything is either pink ribbon or pumpkins but seriously...as soon as we took the exit to our hotel this was waiting at the end of the off ramp:



This has been a reminder to my DH and me that life is short, so we packed as much activity as we could, on a holiday after 5 pm as we could in Halifax.  We dined at Jack Astor's (something that has yet to expand to our province), we were there once before on vacation and it was a must for this trip.  We then got adventurous and went downtown Halifax.  By the time we made it down there it was too dark to go for a walk, so we headed to the Casino for the first time in our lives.  Shocker...we were carded.  This was AWESOME!  My DH turned 40 this year...the bouncer thought we must be the 'yogurt eating type'.  We played 5$ in slots each and left.  I've played many a video game in my younger years but the games there had me boggled.  Then, another first...my first IMAX 3D movie.  I missed out the last time we were down as Lily was too young to go.  'Gravity' was definitely a completely different experience in that theatre!  After a busy night, we crashed pretty much after getting back to our accommodations.

Tuesday was just purely emotional. The fun was over.  I was so worried we would get lost trying to find the church as well.  I walked into the church and looked up and there was the side profile picture that I'd put on my blog.  In my emotional state I couldn't figure out how it had gotten there, I'd recently acquired it myself from another one of my bridesmaids.  There was a beautiful honor guard display by Cathey's DH's fellow employees.  The service itself was pure Cathey, it was full of heartfelt tributes from her father, husband and even Junior helped out.  Towards the end the minister shared a lovely poem that he started to ramble a little too much about, I was digging for my last tissue and the next thing you know, Junior up ends the overhead.  I swear his mother had a hand in this somehow!  When it was confirmed he was ok, I cracked the first smile I've had since I got that fateful call last week.

 
After the service I got to see our dear friend Pam whom I haven't seen since the ta-ta tassle retreat!  We had a good cry/hug and I think she might still have my mascara on her sweater.  I got to spend some time with Cathey's parents whom I've always enjoyed and her DH and Junior.  While he liked the monkey hat, he liked it better on his bear ;)  It was nice to talk to them again, we saw each other briefly at Christmas last year but  due to the distance, it had been awhile.  We were told before we left we had to go see the coast and my land it was beautiful.  I can see where Cathey and her camera would have been perfectly at home there.



DH and I then headed on the long trip home.  We made a pit stop in Moncton to go to one of Cathey and my old haunts, Elite Framing.  I had a canvas piece I wouldn't trust anyone in this city with.  We made it there with about 20 minutes until closing and it surprisingly took 5!  It never took that short a time.  I think when The Quiltmaker was framed, we were there for almost 2 hours!  DH and I had one last kid free dinner (something that rarely happens here) and then headed back to Fredericton.  I'm still adjusting to the new norm, but every day gets a little less foggy. 





15 comments:

Mouse said...

so pleased you made it .. and you were able to have some good memories of everything ... even at a bad time ... they say time heals but they never say how long do they ...
take care ((hugs )) love mouse xxxx

Catherine said...

Thank you so much for sharing this with us. Hugs.....

Julie said...

A very emotional trip for you. It was nice to read you and hubby had some nice good times as well as the sadness.

The hat is so lovely and the book is wonderful.

love and (hugs) xxx

Annie said...

Lovely post. Thanks for sharing the memories.

Mii Stitch said...

A beautiful post. Glad you could get there for a final farewell x

Vickie said...

Thank you for sharing this. What special gifts you have given Junior. =)

Cole said...

A beautiful post, I'm so glad you could make the trip. Thank you for sharing with us.

Carolyn said...

Katie,
You know your right Cathey was there watching and taking part to bring a smile/laugh even if for a few minutes.

It's her way of showing everyone that she is okay and for everyone to keep going.

Thank you for taking us along with you. I miss her and will be thankful for the friendship we had through blogging.

Hugs,
Carolyn

Rowyn said...

Thanks again for sharing with us, especially while dealing with your own grief. Sending hugs your way.

Annette said...

Thank you so much for sharing your trip with us.
The hat and card are awesome!
Little junior, looks awesome!!
Thank you so much, and many strength for you!!

Sally said...

Dear Katie thank you for sharing with us all what must have been a very difficult time for you. Bless you and Cathey's dear family.

Love the little hat and book for Junior.

I miss her blog posts which let us all in on her life. She was one in a million who will never be forgotten. Hugs.

Olga said...

Thank you for the beautiful post and your heart touching memories you shared with us...
Cathey will always be missed.
Hugs

Gabi said...

A lovely post. Thank you for sharing.
Greetings from Germany

Stitching Noni said...

Thank you for sharing this time with us. It must have been a terribly emotional trip for you.
Hugs

Carol said...

Thank you, Katie, for sharing the service with us. I'm so glad you were able to go and I loved seeing Junior and hearing about his making people smile with his antics at the church... I think of that little boy so often and hope he is doing okay... I know this has been so hard on you--please know how much we all appreciate your posts!! Sending a warm hug your way :)