Did you ever have one of those days where innocent (slightly prying) questions just upset you more than usual?? Well that happened yesterday. I was still digesting the Matt being sole commuter issue and the impact on the family finances and worrying that the van's tires would not pass an inspection, in what has to be the most expensive month of the year for us without any unexpected disasters...when along came the first question "are you changing your name?" , well yeah, did that a couple days after the wedding. Then came the "so when's the next baby?", which probably seemed like an innocent question, well that first made me mad then literally in tears. I REALLY would like for Alex to have a sibling and with Alex getting so tall so fast I REALLY miss not having a little one in the house but on the day after another 'more money going out' announcement it was just too much...besides the fact that it isn't solely my decision either. It does bother me that Alex doesn't have a close sibling and yes I know I'm getting older....but 28 isn't old!!! and neither is the 29 I'll be turning in a relatively short period of time!! I don't mind the "we could go on maternity leave together" or the "you're sick and it's morning", that comes with the 28 and settled down territory. The older I get the larger mental note I make to dull any baby comments and definitely try not to make them out of the blue. There's a time and a place for questions that are more direct, but usually you've actually been having a conversation on the issue, especially where you never quite know what someone's going through family planning wise! The older I get the more I realize how aweful my foot tastes ;) Thankfully I was able to calm down in some sort of semblance and thankfully it wasn't someone who's asking didn't make it a very loaded question. Now to quit venting....
Back to stitching...well I could stitch in some sort of peace last night, the tires passed the inspection with the 'fatherly' comment "they passed, but I'd feel a whole lot better if you had new tires on before the winter" (yep, check dad's been telling me that for the last 2 months, saving now...). I diddled around online for a bit and then got back to stitching I Love Stitching. What a quick stitch. What on earth is with WDW not cutting their floss, argh...I HATE cutting hand dyed threads. I always feel like I'm going to screw up the variation in the colour. I also stitched in a Santa on my SB needleroll, if I get an ounce of stitching time this weekend I should have at least one if not both of those projects finished by stitching night Wednesday, woo hoo!!
Today's Alex's first soccer practice of the season, which means I'll have an hour to stitch while I swat flies on the field. He's really looking forward to our wagon ride over to the field. I'm hoping it'll be nice at lunch so I can get out walking, but if not my stitching is ready and waiting!!
4 comments:
{{{hugs}}} Some people just don't realize how difficult that "little" question can be. You have plenty of time!
I'm anxious to see all of your finishes on Wednesday!!
28 is YOUNG! I had my first child at that age ... and I've had two more since. So don't worry about age!
*hugs* for sure. We used to get the "after 10 years when are you getting married ?"... they gave up and moved on to "why don't you want children ?" ... and now, I guess having given up completely are on "Well, how about settling for a dog ?" Like at 34 I wouldn't kill to be married with children ? People really are insensitive. But it's taught me to never ask those questions of anyone ! :)
Can't wait to see your finishes ! Hope you have a great weekend.
Why do people always have to ask when one is having babies?
I may not be married but I do get asked. People are a little taken aback when I tell them point blank I do not want to have children.
It actually tends to shut them up. But then it can lead to all the other questions...
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